Graduation Blues

We wore the hat, we wore the gown, collected the diploma and were showered with congratulations from close family and friends; we finally did it, we finally graduated and our hard work paid off!

I graduated a month ago with a grand plan of what I wanted to do, but as soon as I stepped on stage and out of those doors, I realized that I had no clue what I am doing and where I am going. And there is nothing wrong with that.

I always felt like my graduation would be a momentous life event, and I’m not going to lie, my family made it one for me. It was truly an overwhelming experience – with a little bit of embarrassment and a whole lot of love – and I could’ve never have felt more loved than I did at that moment. However, I didn’t get that feeling of relief or security that my future would go as planned because really, I had no plan. What I did get was a brief twinge of fear that in the end I would get nowhere and cause disappointment to those close to me. Going from lectures and assignments to no responsibilities was a shock to me, I felt like I had no purpose, I was lost in translation. It’s easy to think about what we’d like to do after university, but in reality, for most of us – it’s completely different to what we expect.

Fast forward one month later and I am still somewhat lost – I have an idea of where I want to go but getting there is the hard part. With jobs requiring at least 2-3 years’ experience nowadays, it’s hard to get there. But what I have learned in the past month is that although I have graduated, it isn’t everything. Not having university or the initial worry of assignments has allowed me to think more clearly and intuitively about subjects not relating to my degree, it has allowed me to open up and explore different paths, gain more perspective. And most of all, it’s taught me about myself and how I can learn to deal with situations, rejections and that feeling of being lost. I think this time after one's graduation is a crucial time, although it may be hard, in the end, it’ll shape you to become a person you are proud of, someone who appreciates what they have been given and has worked their butt off to get where they are today.

This isn’t a blog post with tips on how to get a job after university or to give advice to future graduates (maybe in a year I’ll be able to give some solid advice, who knows?); but rather a post to let you know that you aren’t alone and you’ll never be alone. If you’re reading this then just know, there is nothing wrong with feeling stuck or lost, it’s just the process of getting to where you want to be, trust me I know – I’m in the same boat as you!